Review of For Colored Girls

by ChrisK on November 12, 2010

My wife and I went to see the new Tyler Perry’s movie For Colored Girls. Throughout the gut wrenching pain and misery I keep asking myself the same question: How do Women of Color keep on keeping on? I mean life for men of color life is no picnic in these economically challenging times, but sisters have  more than their fair share of crosses to bear.

The movie was superbly filmed and the acting was first rate. Most of my time was spent juxtaposing the characters on the big screen with various members of my family who suffered similar atrocities. My emotions wrestled with fear for something similar happening to one of my daughters. I wish I could wrap my hands around all the women who carry the pain and scars of emotional, physical or sexual abuse, just to comfort them and say I’m sorry.

Long before the movie I had a vision for doing just than. I knew the terrible statistics of how many women are abused so the movie only reinforced and added faces to the cold stats. I found my own way of saying “I’m sorry” with My Forgiveness Card. I’ve been asked if I created the card out of guilt. No, it’s not so much from guilt…albeit I have inflicted my share of emotional pain…but rather from a spirit of loving regard for the well-being of our women who might not ordinarily get an apology from their abuser and carry the pain with them and even possibly passing the pain on to the their children.

My Forgiveness card affirms the need for accountability from us men – even if we haven’t personally terrorized our women like the characters in the movie. A few weeks ago my pastor, Dr. Therman E. Evans taught about Nehemiah, who in Nehemiah 1:1– 5 prayed:

1 The words of Nehemiah son of Hakaliah:

In the month of Kislev in the twentieth year, while I was in the citadel of Susa, 2 Hanani, one of my brothers, came from Judah with some other men, and I questioned them about the Jewish remnant that had survived the exile, and also about Jerusalem.

3 They said to me, “Those who survived the exile and are back in the province are in great trouble and disgrace. The wall of Jerusalem is broken down, and its gates have been burned with fire.”

4 When I heard these things, I sat down and wept. For some days I mourned and fasted and prayed before the God of heaven. 5 Then I said:

“LORD, the God of heaven, the great and awesome God, who keeps his covenant of love with those who love him and keep his commandments, 6 let your ear be attentive and your eyes open to hear the prayer your servant is praying before you day and night for your servants, the people of Israel. I confess the sins we Israelites, including myself and my father’s family, have committed against you. 7 We have acted very wickedly toward you. We have not obeyed the commands, decrees and laws you gave your servant Moses.

Nehemiah wasn’t concerned about who was at fault; he took personal responsibility for ALL his people, himself and his family.

So in the spirit of Nehemiah I would like to say to all the beautiful sisters of color – I am sorry. Please forgive me so we can heal.

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