Review of For Colored Girls

by ChrisK on November 12, 2010

My wife and I went to see the new Tyler Perry’s movie For Colored Girls. Throughout the gut wrenching pain and misery I keep asking myself the same question: How do Women of Color keep on keeping on? I mean life for men of color life is no picnic in these economically challenging times, but sisters have  more than their fair share of crosses to bear.

The movie was superbly filmed and the acting was first rate. Most of my time was spent juxtaposing the characters on the big screen with various members of my family who suffered similar atrocities. My emotions wrestled with fear for something similar happening to one of my daughters. I wish I could wrap my hands around all the women who carry the pain and scars of emotional, physical or sexual abuse, just to comfort them and say I’m sorry.

Long before the movie I had a vision for doing just than. I knew the terrible statistics of how many women are abused so the movie only reinforced and added faces to the cold stats. I found my own way of saying “I’m sorry” with My Forgiveness Card. I’ve been asked if I created the card out of guilt. No, it’s not so much from guilt…albeit I have inflicted my share of emotional pain…but rather from a spirit of loving regard for the well-being of our women who might not ordinarily get an apology from their abuser and carry the pain with them and even possibly passing the pain on to the their children.

My Forgiveness card affirms the need for accountability from us men – even if we haven’t personally terrorized our women like the characters in the movie. A few weeks ago my pastor, Dr. Therman E. Evans taught about Nehemiah, who in Nehemiah 1:1– 5 prayed:

1 The words of Nehemiah son of Hakaliah:

In the month of Kislev in the twentieth year, while I was in the citadel of Susa, 2 Hanani, one of my brothers, came from Judah with some other men, and I questioned them about the Jewish remnant that had survived the exile, and also about Jerusalem.

3 They said to me, “Those who survived the exile and are back in the province are in great trouble and disgrace. The wall of Jerusalem is broken down, and its gates have been burned with fire.”

4 When I heard these things, I sat down and wept. For some days I mourned and fasted and prayed before the God of heaven. 5 Then I said:

“LORD, the God of heaven, the great and awesome God, who keeps his covenant of love with those who love him and keep his commandments, 6 let your ear be attentive and your eyes open to hear the prayer your servant is praying before you day and night for your servants, the people of Israel. I confess the sins we Israelites, including myself and my father’s family, have committed against you. 7 We have acted very wickedly toward you. We have not obeyed the commands, decrees and laws you gave your servant Moses.

Nehemiah wasn’t concerned about who was at fault; he took personal responsibility for ALL his people, himself and his family.

So in the spirit of Nehemiah I would like to say to all the beautiful sisters of color – I am sorry. Please forgive me so we can heal.

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Biography of Albert Huie - Father of Jamaican Painting

Biography of Albert Huie

It is with sadness that I report Albert Huie, Master Jamaican Painter and Printmaker has made his transition.  He passed Sunday, January 31, 2010 and will surely be missed.

The Huie Family released this statement:

On behalf of the Huie Family we would like to thank Jamaica for its outpouring of admiration and love shown towards our beloved Huie.

He loved Jamaica as depicted in his works.  They are not only a testament to his talents but also a treasure for Jamaicans and his admirers to enjoy forever.”

My thanks to the Albert Huie family for graciously allowing me to use the image of Wash Day, an original oil on canvas painted in 1944. Albert Huie, Master Jamaican Painter and Printmaker, was born in Falmouth, Jamaica on December 31,1920. Huie knew his destiny at an early age, as he began doodling with charcoal, from his grandmothers’s old coal stove, on the floor and walls of his Falmouth home.

Thank you for embracing the vision of

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This week was really special! I was on line at the A&P supermarket and the woman behind me asked if she could rest her items behind mine and run back to get the vinegar she forgot to pick up. ” Sure”  I said as she dashed off. The line moved so I brought the three [...]

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Week #3: Networking and Forgiving…

January 14, 2010

I was at a business networking function and realized I hadn’t given out any My Forgiveness Cards for the week. There were two ladies in the group of roughly 20 so I made the decision to approach one of them after the meeting.  To my surprise one of them (not the one I mentally chose) [...]

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Week #2: Giving My Forgiveness Cards

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Week #2 is in the bag! I gave My Forgiveness Card to a lady in a Bakery in NY.  She was relaxed and easy going as I read the card to her. When I was done she looked my dead in the eye and quietly said “thank you.” No fuss. No fanfare and I was [...]

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Week #1: Giving My Forgiveness Cards

January 1, 2010

I was wondering since its New Years Day how I would get a chance to give my first My Forgiveness Card in 2010. If you don’t know, my plan is to give at least one card per week for all 52 weeks of this year. As luck would have it my wife mentioned that we [...]

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New Year’s Day is a great time to ask for forgiveness

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I’m anxiously awaiting the new year to start my year long, 52 week forgiveness marathon. There’s no better time than New Year’s Day to start giving the ultimate gift of Forgiveness. Tomorrow I’ll find my first random recipient and present her with My Forgiveness Card. I’ll keep you posted.

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How to Forgive for the New Year

December 22, 2009

OK, my goal for 2010 is to walk my talk. That’s right, I’m going to give at least 52 randomly selected women My Forgiveness Card. That’s at least one woman a week for 52 weeks. If I feel ambitious I might give more than one a week but I am committing to at least one. [...]

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Mo’Nique is REALLY Precious…

December 17, 2009

I was surprised to find out that the movie Precious, which won actress/comedian Mo’Nique a Golden Globe, was based on her experience as a sexually abused child. “I know Mary Jones. I know that monster,” Mo’Nique was quoted telling talk show hostess Joy Behar that her character, a mentally ill, abusive mother. “That character for [...]

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Why a Forgiveness Card?

December 10, 2009

Sure it would be great if the people who’ve violated us in the past would find Jesus, atone, be remorseful and offer a deep, contrite, impactful apology. Fact is, the chances of that happening are slim to none. The reason I believe My Forgiveness Card is effective is because it speaks to all women, past [...]

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